K: Kill the Fish To Eat

The FOMO trap has led us to false believing that not all of us can do it. Are you one of them? Are you often bogged down by your inability to accomplish your goals, and implement your plans? Is self-doubt ruining your goal achievements?

We have programmed ourselves to believe that our success and failures are an outcome of what we are, when in fact we are not aware that we are telling ourselves a false story. Its so automatic that when we talk of a successful person or see someone succeed, we by default come up with words like ‘oh that person is a genius’ ‘he is extremely talented’ and start to link their success with innate qualities. We keep weaving a flawed tale only to loom around us, which leads us to making wrong choices and apparently off beam decisions about ourselves, our goals, our achievements. What is even worse is, that we end up closing opportunist doors, shutting off possibilities, and undermining our capabilities. Did you ever think that you could achieve all you desire, only if you believe in a different story? The real story- the truth- which is success and failure is not about what you are but actually about what you do- what actions you take and what you don’t. Everything big starts from small and focused.

And if taking those actions, make you feel uncomfortable or stretched-- good! That’s the point. You want to grow into something even more, which means you are doing and trying more than you were doing or trying yesterday. The motive should is to be incrementally or massively better in your daily actions.

SO it basically comes down to the fact that you have all the ability in the world that is prompted by YOU taking right ACTIONS. This information is worth a squander it you don’t know what are the right actions.

It's as simple, as Kill the Fish to Eat it. Let’s abbreviate it as  KiFE, to make it easy to use.

The metaphor kill the fish to eat here means, that to get the reward one needs to take action and to take action one needs to set goals.

SO

To eat fish: Kill the fish---fry the fish----relish & eat                                  

(Goal)         (Action 1)----(Action 2)     (Achievement & Reward)

Hence everything in life can be accomplished, if appropriate goal setting is followed with execution.

However with goal setting we need to practice the rule of 3. Keeping in mind the rule of 3, gives the process an attainable effectiveness on the platform of implementation.

• ·       Set big realistic goals: If you want to excel at achieving, it is imperative to set big but realistic goals. The fact is when you set low easily achievable goals, the motivation and energy levels start to get weary, and you will actually never out-excel those stumpy goals. Hence all you achieve is a mediocre compensation in return for your mediocre set goals. On the other hand, big challenging goals, develop greater enthusiasm and push you to give peak performances. A research study by Edwin  Locke and Gary Latham, proves that there exist a direct relationship between the difficulty level of a goal  and the level of performance.

• ·       Be process focused instead of outcome focused:  Often during the process of goal setting, we become more inclined towards the outcome, and our focus shifts from the goal and the process of achieving it to the outcome. An outcome based perspective drives your mind to aim only at the result, hence making the process of achieving it a drag. If you love writing, but start focusing on the page views, number of post shares or conversion rates, the whole fun demolishes. When we start to shift to a process oriented perspective, we are in a position to juice out the intrinsic value of the pursuit. Hence the journey to the goal achievement becomes its own compensation.  When you zoom in your focus on the outcome, you tend to neglect the process, and the whole activity loses its meaning. Maria Sharapova's one classic advice to beginner tennis players is to focus on the game and not winning the titles. If you learn to enjoy the process of playing, the winning will follow. A common trait found among the extraordinary personalities is their process-focused mind.

The amateur focuses on outcomes and expects immediate results. The professional plays the long game and prioritizes the process, perfecting it for years with no immediate payoff.

• ·       Set them, write them and share them: Setting intentions and planning on goals is step zero. Writing down goals is step 1, that is because when you write goals, you develop a clarity, declare your purpose and this intention provides direction to subsequent thoughts and actions even when we are not completely centered on our goals. Its like a commitment to self. Sharing these goals with supportive colleagues and friends helps you develop accountability partners, and hence your performance is amplified. The research states that only 3% of adults write their goals and rest of them claim to be working towards them.